Pray for Peace

War is looming. I have listened to many commentaries and predictions and rationalizations for the past several weeks. Accusations and justifications, numbers of people who will die. That is what grieves me. Thinking about the cost of the war. Not in dollars but in human life. And the cost to our humanity as well. 

I hear the governments talking about people as if they are not real, just a statistic, the cost of war. People are referred to as possessions to be traded or leveraged. It reminds me of the language people used to talk about slavery. I am reading about the process of transforming our perception of humans into a commodity, the extracting of a soul in order to make a profit. It continues in its own way today. 

We are all God’s possession, equally cared for and loved. No human has a right to own or injure or plan to injure any of God’s beloved. It’s one of the commandments. We are to honor one another, to see life as the sacred gift it is. A gift given not because we earned it, or because one group is better. A gift given to everyone who is alive.

I recently heard a priest talk about changing his language intentionally so as not to use possessive pronouns at all. He is trying to hold nothing as his personal possession, but acknowledge that every good thing belongs to God. Think about not saying “my house” or “my children” or “my country”. What might it mean if we saw everything as a gift we are given for a short time to steward?

I pray for peace. Not because I am worried about what war will do to my retirement funds. I pray for peace because all people matter, life is sacred. It is not ours to dispose of, but ours to cherish. People die in war.

How do we live in that sense of respect and dignity for all people, so that it becomes a disposition taken for granted? How do I treat the people in my life, my community, my world,  as beloved of God? We need to change the narrative, and by that I mean I am responsible for that transformation in my own sphere of influence. And you are too.

Valentine’s Day

By the time you read this, Valentine’s Day will be over. I didn’t want to spoil it for those who love it. But I have a few problems with this holiday. As a parent of 6, it was never fun to organize a class load of Valentine cards and candy for approximately 150 classmates, give or take. The night before the party was always a frenzy. 

The hope that I have is that you know you are loved regardless of your relationship status. I hope you know your value even if you didn’t have a date. I hope you see yourself as beautiful even if no one has told you that for a while. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be fabulous.

If you are in a relationship, I pray that it is healthy. I pray that you don’t have to pretend everything is OK. I pray that you and your partner treat each other with respect and reverence, and that your time together is always a blessing. I pray that you are always deepening your love for one another, and that you see your love as a sign of God’s love. I pray that you have people who support you as a couple when things inevitably get tough.

If you are in a situation that might not be what society calls traditional, I pray that you stay strong and find the support you need. And if you are not interested in romantic relationship at all,  I pray you have good friends who can tell you that you are awesome. Not everyone fits into societal norms and expectations, and that is a good thing. Be yourself!

Valentine’s Day has a narrative that just doesn’t fit everyone. That can make the day hard for some people. Know that you are always a delight in the eyes of God, always beloved, always created to be just as you are. Don’t let the ways of the world define you. God thinks you  are marvelous!